There was some point in our lives when we felt that everybody around us was doing great, well, except us.
Especially if you have social media, you get bombarded with pictures of your friends showing you what a great life they live; eating at expensive restaurants, visiting different places quite often, always doing something, always experiencing something new.
If that genuinely makes them happy, then that’s very good for them. But before getting jealous, we should ask ourselves what true happiness truly means for us. Because, for some of us, happiness won’t mean eating at restaurants as much as possible or visiting a lot of places.
Happiness comes from many places
Some of us are happy by spending some alone time in nature or playing some games with a close friend. Some of us are happy if we have the chance to help someone and we do our best or if we create something, either by coding, painting, or writing.
There is no right amount of something or the right thing, the right place that’ll make us happy forever.
If you think that those people that you see on Instagram are on top of the mountain, then I’ll hope you'll reach that mountain too, only to figure out that you’ve climbed the wrong one, because you couldn’t find the happiness at that top.
Chasing the right type of happiness
Whatever we see that others chase, it may not be good for us as well. I think most of us get some pleasure from buying some new clothes or from eating some really good food, but whatever brings us some happiness, we must understand it and control it, because if it gets out of control, then there is a high chance that our finances will suffer.
Most things feel special because we don't do them every day.If, let’s say, we won the lottery and we start buying new clothes every day, at some point, that will stop bringing us any happiness because we’ve exhausted everything that was special about that.
Understanding the path to happiness
There is no piece of the puzzle that is missing. Where is that meme when you need it?
Oh, there it is.
So, we should stop thinking things like "If I had this and if I had that, then I would be happy." Of course, we can be happy right now.
Of course, it’s not going to be some over the top excitement, but the single fact that you get to live today, to experience things, to have a body that you can use at a good capacity, this should be enough to bring us a relatively good mood, a grateful mood. And I dare to say that this should be our default mood, unless something happens.
Being unhappy is more than ok
It’s perfectly justifiable to not be in a good mood, but we shouldn’t dwell on that unhappiness, because when we’re in a bad mood, we can figure out quite quickly why we feel the way we feel. And that is a call to action.
Maybe we’re constantly unhappy because of our bodies. Then we should think about what we can change and then work towards it. Maybe we’re unhappy because of our finances again. We need to put more effort into that area then. Our relationships? It's the same story for everything.
Conclusion
Aiming for happiness or excitement constantly is something foolish. We should aim for simple life satisfaction, the satisfaction that will tell us that we did something meaningful, and also that feeling should come from the fact that we get to keep on living, to experience and to try more things. And not everybody has this benefit.
